Rosalind Wiseman

Queen Bees & Wannabes Suggested Book Club Questions

What were conflicts you experienced with friends when you were growing up? How do you think those experiences influence the way you parent your daughter?

What group, if any, were you in?

Did you ever have a friend make you feel bad by saying “I’m just joking” to dismiss whatever mean thing they just said? How did you handle it? How have you seen this phrase used in your adult life?

What “Check Your Baggage” section did you relate to the most?

What part of the book do you think your daughter would relate to the most?

What part of the book do you think your daughter would disagree with the most?

Did you see any of her friends described in the book? How do you feel about that? How does it make you interact with them?

How can we talk about the roles that girls can play without blaming them or labeling them so we only see them in one dimension?

What are the positive attributes of the different roles girls can play?

How does your daughter express her anger? Does it fit with what was described in the book?

Does your daughter have a hard time letting go of grudges? How do you think you can help her do that more easily?

How do you think Girl World will influence your daughter as she grows up?

How much do the boys in your community actively contribute to conflicts between girls?

What are your thoughts about fruit cup girl? Do you see girls acting in this way? What does it look like and how do adults usually respond when they see girls being fruit cup girl?

How much does the internet, cell phones and other forms of technology play a part in the way girls’ in your community have conflicts with each other?

How do you feel about technology? Does it make you anxious or excited? How do you help your daughter navigate her world when it’s defined by so many different methods of communication than what you grew up with?

How can a parent stop Queen Bee behavior?

What part of the book did you agree with the most?

What part of the book did you disagree with the most?