Just got back from shooting this show with Katie Couric! I learned a lot about synthetic drugs and I think every parent should know. Honestly, I had no idea how powerful they are, how easily you can buy them at a gas station (!) or convenience store, and how potentially dangerous they are.
Less prone to talk about their feelings, stereotyped as settling every dispute with a fistfight, boys face social issues that have long been ignored as an important key to understanding their behavior. I felt compelled to pull back the curtain on “Guy World.” Working collaboratively for two years with middle-school and high-school boys to show the emotional terrain they inhabit, I’ve now completed “Masterminds & Wingmen: Helping Your Son Cope with Schoolyard Power, Locker-Room Tests, Girlfriends, and the New Rules of Boy World.” What I learned is fascinating, and critically important for any parent to know.
As parents of tweens and teens we tend to marvel and laugh about how embarrassed our children are of us. Okay, you’re allowed to sneeze and breathe however you want. But these aren’t the only ways we mortify our kids. I’ve recently come to the unfortunate conclusion that sometimes when our children are embarrassed of us, they’re right—even though our behavior is based on good intentions or understandable concern.
Many readers of my June 7th blog asked what happened with Olivia, the girl who had written to me about how to tell her mom she was being sexually harassed at school. I checked in with Olivia a few days ago, and here is her response.
Elijah, my 11-year-old son, woke up this morning determined to pick a fight with me. I know I should have been more mature, but I totally fell into his trap. But in the midst of my annoyance I had a parenting epiphany that immediately turned the tables on him.