Comments on: Jezebel Asked, I Answered: Women vs. Women in the Workplace http://rosalindwiseman.com/2009/10/21/jezebel/ creating cultures of dignity Mon, 14 May 2012 18:01:33 +0000 hourly 1 By: Kelly Weber http://rosalindwiseman.com/2009/10/21/jezebel/comment-page-1/#comment-777 Kelly Weber Sat, 24 Oct 2009 10:51:20 +0000 http://rosalindwiseman.com/?p=3622#comment-777 With each session (we implemented "Owning Up" as a pilot program in September - appropriately on September 11), I've tried to incorporate statements and examples of how and why this program will help my students to effectively communicate the rest of their lives. I use this as a connecting tool so that they understand that adults deal with many of the same issues they deal with - (hopefully!) we've just gotten better at dealing with difficult/bullying coworkers. I also have let them know that SEAL is not necessarily a once and done strategy - it may take several encounters before issues are effectively brought to a close. This is a particular reality in the workplace...imagine the years of bullying that may need to be unhinged with some coworkers! On the other hand, as adults, we are more aware of the internal battles that all of us experience - hence the reason "Be the change you wish to see in the world" has been my personal motto since I started working with a "Peer LIsteners" group 4 years ago. Many times a bully has softened their approach just by a experiencing a proactive kindness or some "active listening". As an aside...I just smiled when I finally had a chance (a few days later!) to look at my training certificate after attending the "Owning Up" training in July. As synchronicity would have it, my favorite quotation "Be the Change..." was the final empowering wisdom you chose to include on the certificate. Awesome. With each session (we implemented “Owning Up” as a pilot program in September – appropriately on September 11), I’ve tried to incorporate statements and examples of how and why this program will help my students to effectively communicate the rest of their lives. I use this as a connecting tool so that they understand that adults deal with many of the same issues they deal with – (hopefully!) we’ve just gotten better at dealing with difficult/bullying coworkers. I also have let them know that SEAL is not necessarily a once and done strategy – it may take several encounters before issues are effectively brought to a close. This is a particular reality in the workplace…imagine the years of bullying that may need to be unhinged with some coworkers! On the other hand, as adults, we are more aware of the internal battles that all of us experience – hence the reason “Be the change you wish to see in the world” has been my personal motto since I started working with a “Peer LIsteners” group 4 years ago. Many times a bully has softened their approach just by a experiencing a proactive kindness or some “active listening”.

As an aside…I just smiled when I finally had a chance (a few days later!) to look at my training certificate after attending the “Owning Up” training in July. As synchronicity would have it, my favorite quotation “Be the Change…” was the final empowering wisdom you chose to include on the certificate. Awesome.

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