http://rosalindwiseman.com/2009/10/01/family-circle-ask-rosalind-october-2009/ creating cultures of dignity Thu, 12 Jan 2012 23:04:57 +0000 hourly 1 http://rosalindwiseman.com/2009/10/01/family-circle-ask-rosalind-october-2009/comment-page-1/#comment-1272 Karen Tue, 05 Jan 2010 00:10:00 +0000 http://rosalindwiseman.com/?p=3537#comment-1272 My 10 year old daughter is constantly "pretending" she doesn't hear us when we know darned well she does. Also, rather than yell or get upset, I try to keep calm and ask that my kids leave a room, telling them they are welcome to return when they are ready to treat us respectfully. Lately, however, my daughter refuses to leave when asked, and especially when family and friends are over, continues the behavior and tries to escalate things to make a scene. Because I really do not want to get into yelling matches,and I want consequences to be immediate, I try to deal with it then and there, but calmly, but sometimes I feel like she is not feeling enough of a consequence to stop her from repeating the behavior the next time. If we were in someone else's home I would get up and insist on leaving, but we are too often in our house so that is not possible. Any suggestions? My 10 year old daughter is constantly “pretending” she doesn’t hear us when we know darned well she does. Also, rather than yell or get upset, I try to keep calm and ask that my kids leave a room, telling them they are welcome to return when they are ready to treat us respectfully. Lately, however, my daughter refuses to leave when asked, and especially when family and friends are over, continues the behavior and tries to escalate things to make a scene. Because I really do not want to get into yelling matches,and I want consequences to be immediate, I try to deal with it then and there, but calmly, but sometimes I feel like she is not feeling enough of a consequence to stop her from repeating the behavior the next time. If we were in someone else’s home I would get up and insist on leaving, but we are too often in our house so that is not possible. Any suggestions?

]]> http://rosalindwiseman.com/2009/10/01/family-circle-ask-rosalind-october-2009/comment-page-1/#comment-1252 Gay Wed, 16 Dec 2009 14:40:17 +0000 http://rosalindwiseman.com/?p=3537#comment-1252 I am so glad you are helping parents help their kids in the wonderful, unique way that you do! I am so glad you are helping parents help their kids in the wonderful, unique way that you do!

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