While you probably have gotten a good sense of my professional career from my formal bio, I wanted to give a perspective that was not so rigid and boring, and that will hopefully provide insight into how I came to do this work.
I grew up in Washington D.C. with my younger brother and sister. I went to my local public school, John Eaton, until 5th grade and then moved to Pittsburgh for my father’s work. Although I certainly had the occasional problem with my friends in Washington, being the new kid in 6th grade at an all girls school (where I had to wear a green and white striped uniform) proved to be very challenging. That’s where I truly had my first “mean girl” experiences. The next year my parents returned the family to Washington and I attended the Maret School until graduation. I went to Occidental College in Los Angeles, a small liberal arts school where I majored in political science. Oxy was a great environment for me. I met incredibly smart, down to earth people who taught me much more than what I learned in my classes.
After graduation I came back to Washington D.C. with my then-boyfriend/future husband because I couldn’t find a job in California. I had also just gotten my first degree black belt in Karate, and when I returned home I was asked if I would teach a group of high school girls self-defense. I thought, why not? I immediately loved the work. I loved seeing what teaching girls how to take care of their bodies did to their self-confidence.
But teaching girls brought up a lot of questions for me. Why were girls so quick to doubt their abilities and where did boys fit into these issues? Here comes the truly miraculous part: For some reason, there were schools who let me (a then-23 year old with almost no teaching experience) work with their students. For the next 8 years I worked in the DC-area in private schools, public schools, teen parent homes—anywhere teens were—and developed a curriculum called Owning Up™ that I now teach to educators all over the world. It’s truly amazing how it has turned out.
I still live in Washington D.C. with my husband and two sons, surrounded by an incredible network of family and friends. Though my work is hard and I can be overwhelmed by the difficulties people share with me, I am tremendously grateful that I have the privilege to do what I love and feel appreciated for my efforts.
September 5th, 2010 at 11:50 am
What I was trying to ask is
Is it possible for being bullied horribly in one’s younger years have an effect on finding a spouse later in life? What should a person who is being bullied do if nobody (the teachers) believes her? My elematnary school didn’t have a counciler-sp?.
September 3rd, 2010 at 4:44 pm
Are you the Rosalind of the Queenbees and Wannabees?
I am not a parent. But the book helped me in my last year of high school. A “Queenbee” was trying to be friendly with me but because of reading the book once in my 1st year and once in my last year, I could easily see through her. When my mom saw what the book said about “queenbees” she agreed with me.
I do have one question though. You need to have a section the next time your re-write about the people who are bullied and the victim’s only course is fighting back?